Do not underestimate the power of new right now. If your room is the same as when your lover went away, it is time to change. This is a new time in your life, and you should attempt to celebrate the newness in small ways. Don't go too big; this is not the time for great, large change - you already have enough on your plate. It is time for small changes. It is time for reclaiming some small piece of yourself, if not your own totality.
Change your room. Buy several new things, whether they are new or used. Put into a box all things that remind you of the way things were. You do not need to throw these things out, only remove them from sight so that you can focus on the next.
This is a good time to consolidate the things you want or need, and dispose of the things you no longer have a use for. After all, your heart is being purged - so go ahead and purge your material items. It will help things to flow. Purification on the inside can be aided by purification on the outside.
There is no end to the value of treating yourself to new things right now. They do not have to be new, expensive things; they only need to be reaffirming of who you are. A new blanket, a new frying pan, a new bookcase with a new scarf laid over its top. A few new or used books, a new album, some fresh flowers on your dresser. Hang up those photos or paintings that have been sitting neglected for months or years. Perhaps a new pair of earrings and a new blouse.
Reclaim your space and your identity; when we are with another, these things get lost in the space of "I love you" and "We are one," when, truly, we are only two wholes living side by side. We forget this. It is time to remember your wholeness. Surround yourself with beauty. Surround yourself with things that make you feel comfortable, at home, and reinforce your inherent wholeness.
Reclaim you.
Sunday, September 5, 2010
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I agree with your post. When a relationship ends, it is almost like someone or something has died. A friend whose husband recently died was told by a support group to rearrange her living space. Don't get rid of stuff, just move furniture around. Thereby recreating the space you still have to live in and removing the memory of the one who is no longer there. A few changes make all the difference!
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