It's important for you to have support during this time. In fact, it's one of the most important factors determining how strong you are. People like to poo-poo personal strength, as though it ALL has to come from within. Obviously that's bullshit. There is something to be said for mothers and best friends that understand the use of the words, "Everything is going to be okay," and other such phrases, like "It hurts, and it sucks, but you're going to be alright." Never, ever underestimate the power of the words, "it/you is/are going to be okay," because on your darkest day, you will need to remember that. You need to encapsulate it into your heart and remember that you are already whole, that any human being coming into your life can only complement what you are. There is no "completing" you, because you are already complete. There is no "perfect one," because many are perfect; in fact, all are perfect within the parameters of imperfection being perfection.
In this time, a friend that can empathize with you is paramount. Someone who knows the pain of love lost or love betrayed, that, simply by understanding, contributes to your own healing. That simply by being on the other end of the line passes over her own strength, to lift you up.
Support is there. You must find it. Even in your darkest moments, there is someone there. They will listen, hopefully they will tell you it will be alright, and they will hold your hand no matter how far away you happen to be.
Support.
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